Choices

“Learning what to choose, and how to choose, may be the most important education you will ever receive.” -Dr. Shad Helmstetter, Choices. 

Our life is filled with choices. Every step that we take will require a decision making. I can guarantee that every single day, we will face at least one choice. To decide to get out of bed in the morning is a choice. To choose to shower that day is also a choice. However, not all decisions are easy to make. We may face challenges that require wisdom before we decide. Dr. Shad Helmstetter also said, “Whatever you choose, you might as well enjoy it. It is your choice.”

One example that I am about to point out is quite sensitive. I ask that you please bear with me. The toughest choice that some teenagers have to face is in the subject of abortion. Premarital sex causes problems when one becomes pregnant unexpectedly. Panic and confusion will occur in these situations. The couple would not have the right mind to think this through. All they think about is how to solve the problem now to save their reputations. However, does this choice really give the solution to the problem? Doesn't it cause more problems, such as guilt, remorse, and shame? These kinds of situations call for wisdom to choose.

I was just hearing a song called "Lucy" by a band named Skillet. At first, I thought this song was a typical "missing you/rest in peace" song. I didn't pay much attention to it in my iPod. While I was browsing Skillet in Wikipedia, I found out that "Lucy" was one of their singles in their newest album. There was an additional note in the body page which tells of what the song actually means. The lead singer, John Cooper, said this:

"It is based on a true story. And that story is this: it's about a young couple who find out that they're pregnant. They are in high school, they are not married, and they are absolutely scared to death of the implications — what happens when people find out, and then how to take care of this baby. They don't know what to do. Very frightened. And basically the only option that they think that they have just to get rid of this problem was to terminate the pregnancy. And so they did that. They had the procedure done. And, of course, being young and naive, they thought that all their problems were over, everything was going to be better now, nobody had to find out.

But then over the next few months, something happened to them that happens to a lot of people, which is the fact that they began to feel this immense pain and guilt and sorrow and loneliness over what had happened with the baby. Couldn't get over it. So they finally decided to go see a counsellor. And this counsellor basically suggested for them to stop thinking of it like a medical procedure, and to begin to think of this like a death in the family in order to get over it.

And so this couple goes home, and they decide to do three things. Number one, they decide to hold a small funeral service for the child. Number two, they bought a little headstone as a reminder. It said, "In memory of" — you know, the baby and whatnot. And number three, they decided to name the baby in order to get some closure. And they decided to call her Lucy.

So it's a sad song, but it's also about second chances. It's about talking about an issue that is effecting literally thousands of people all across the world. More of these stories are coming out of people saying, "Had I know that grief that would ensue after having this procedure done, I might have thought twice about it." And so it's meant to bring hope to people. Meant to bring a peace to people. And basically the love of God. All these things are hard, and they effect you, and they're real, but there's a God who loves you and is there for you."

You can check out the lyrics of "Lucy" here. It's very touching and sad. The choice the young couple made had utterly left a huge scar in their lives. They regretted being impatient with sex and even more regretful when deciding on abortion. But they have to live on anyway. However, how happier can their life be if only they had made the right choice...


We cannot change what we had chosen in the past. That is why we have to choose carefully in life. Our decisions will determine the kind of future we have. I just pray that we all could gain the wisdom to decide life's choices when facing difficult situations. Please, dear readers... I beg you... Make the right choices. The world depends on you. Choose to live wisely.




My prayers be with you,
Justin